Links I Love Wednesday

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Links I Love Wednesday

1. 5 of the Prettiest Ikea Hacks (theglitterguide.com). These girls take cheap furniture and make it look awesomely luxe [love me some DIY].

2. The Difference Between Healthy Love and Unhealthy Love (mindbodygreen.com).

3. Homemade Seasoned Pita Chips Recipe (tablefortwoblog.com). These would go PERFECTLY with unlimited amounts of guacamole. PLUS, they take only 20 minutes to throw together.

4. Why Employers Are Slow at Hiring (levo.com). Waiting to score an interview to that dream job you’ve been eyeing? Don’t feel discouraged. This article tells you why it takes a couple of weeks for employers to hire someone.

5.If Ron Swanson Quotes Were Motivational Posters (buzzfeed.com).

6. Apple Cider Martini (theglitterguide.com). Nothing says fall quite like a martini..err..I mean apple cider.

7. How to Prepare for a Job Interview (hellogiggles.com).

8. 21 Genius Hacks for Fixing Ruined Clothes (cosmopolitan.com). I mean, we all spill lunches on ourselves on a daily basis [ha ha.. I mean.. That can’t just be me, right?]. The wonderful people over at Cosmo have figured out a few hacks to get rid of those everyday stains.

Have a great Wednesday, you awesomely fantastic group of people! ❤

Links I Love Wednesday

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Links I Love Wednesday

1. What The Cast Of “Little Rascals” Looks Like Today (buzzfeed.com). C’mon.. I know you’re a little curious what they look like. Just click it.

2. French Toast w/ Berry Butter Recipe (thepioneerwoman.com). First off, I love breakfast. Second, this looks DELICIOUS. The berry butter recipe alone is worth taking a look at this link.

3. 57 Books to Read This Fall (vulture.com).

4. Fall 2014 Fashion Trends and Essentials (theeverygirl.com). Curious about what’s in style for Fall? As much as I want to deny that Summer is coming to an end, I am pretty pumped about wear scarves, boots, sweaters, etc [drink/eat anything pumpkin flavored].

5.What if Money Was No Object (filmsforaction.org). I LOVE this. A great comic strip of Alan Watts’ lecture where he encourages you to do what you love [eat pizza for a living? SIGN ME UP.].

6. Fun and Feminine Desk Organizing (theglitterguide.com). Tips to rearrange and decorate your desk for Fall [that season I’m still in denial about..].

7. Why People Fall Out of Love (mindbodygreen.com). This title is designed to grab your attention but it leads to a great article that talks about how to keep falling in love with your boo.

8. 7 Week Old Baby Hears for the First Time (theberry.com). SO CUTE [*cries quietly behind computer monitor*]

9. Daniele’s Twitter Account (twitter.com). HEY, THAT’S ME!

Have a great week, everyone! Stay fly. ;D

Links I Love Wednesday

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Links I Love Wednesday

1. How to Keep Crushing on Your Long-Term Partner (hellogiggles.com). Great tips on how to keep the butterflies in your stomach.. Even after the honeymoon phase has ended! [I love love.]

2. Cake Batter Popcorn Recipe (laurenconrad.com). Cake AND popcorn? [It’s like a party in your mouth, yo.]

3. Thinks to Consider When Evaluating a Job Offer (levo.com). Great advice for when you get the job and are trying to decide if you should take it.

4. Hunger Games: Mockingjay – Part 1 Trailer (buzzfeed.com). Because I’m excited, okay?!

5. Chocolate Zucchini Coconut Cake Recipe (twopeasandtheirpod.com).

6. 8 DIY Decor Projects That Make Life Easier (apartmenttherapy.com). You’ll feel like Martha Stewart, swearsies.

7. How to Reduce Stress in 60 Seconds (fastcompany.com). If this doesn’t help, just picture eating a really cheesy and delicious pizza. [MMMMM pizzaaaaa… so relaxing].

8. 10 Summer Date Ideas (laurenconrad.com). CUTE.

9. Little Girl Loses It After Finding Out Her Little Brother Can’t Stay Young Forever (buzzfeed.com). GEEZE that was a mouthful. But this video is adorable.

Happy Wednesday, everyone! 🙂

How to Pick Your Battles in Love

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How to Pick Your Battles in Love

Being in a relationship is a wonderful thing – you get to share your life with someone and together you get to make memories, experience life, and hopefully share in an adventure that is kick ass. Love is beautiful.

However, no relationship is perfect. Every couple has problems and conflict happens. Fortunately, most of these ‘problems’ aren’t very serious. If they were serious all the time, you most likely wouldn’t be with this person – right? [the correct answer to that is yes, BTW].

Couples – especially ones that have been together for an extended period of time – sometimes fight about the MOST STUPID things ever. Although you’ll most like laugh about these ridiculous little tiffs later on, I can guarantee that the little rumble won’t feel very funny when you’re actually experiencing it in real time.

So, these stupid fights. These could be about anything. Maybe your boo didn’t boil the water before he started to make the mac and cheese. Or maybe they made fun of your 3rd grade picture. Or maybe you saw your S.O. steal a few extra dollars from the Monopoly bank. Whatever.

The point is, a lot of these fights are stupid and can sometimes be spotted and stopped before they escalate. However, not all fights are going to be as easy to label as fighting about being a Monopoly cheater.

How to pick your battles in love.

Picking your battles in love takes patience and critical thinking. It means looking at the situation you’re in and really analyzing it. To hopefully help you evaluate whether it’s worth it to fight or not, here are a few questions I like to ask myself before I let loose the hounds of hell on my unsuspecting boo:

  1. How do I really feel about this? Take a moment to really look at your feelings and evaluate what you’re actually upset about. When you take a hard look at the situation and breathe for a second, you might realize that you’re not angry at your significant other.

Maybe you had a really crappy day at work and it seemed like nothing was going right. If you felt like crap all day, you might just be taking those negative feelings out on your S.O. If that’s the case, take a step back and chill out.

Go for a walk, take a hot bath, pat your head and rub your stomach, whatever you need to do. Just avoid fighting with your beau simply because you’ve had a crap day and need to use someone as a verbal punching bag.

2. Does this really affect my life? Maybe you’re annoyed that your boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse doesn’t fold his or her socks in their sock drawer. Unless your socks are in the same drawer and it’s really inconveniencing you, let it go. 

There may be chaos in their dresser, but that chaos isn’t reaching out and turning your life into a mess. Better to just move on and focus on more important things.

3. Does this happen all the time? Is it a recurring thing or this is the first time it’s happened?

Lets say that your significant other is late for dinner one night. You’ve been waiting for awhile and you’re worrying like crazy. If they come home, explain why they’re late, and it’s not something that happens EVERY night – drop it.

However, if they are showing up late almost every time you have dinner together and/or offer no explanation as to why they are running behind, you should probably say something. Repeatedly disrespecting/hurting your feelings is much more serious and should be addressed.

4. Did they do it on purpose? Did your partner make an offhand comment about your outfit that unintentionally hurt your feelings? Or maybe they criticized your cooking without knowing you actually made it?

If there was no malicious intent behind it, just drop it. We all say stupid things, and some of us need medical assistance with how far we put our foot in our mouths. It happens.

If it really hurt your feelings (like maybe you worked all day on that meal), mention it to them. Most likely, they’ll apologize immediately and talk about how scrumptious your disgusting meal actually is.

DON’T go on the offense with them and attack them for their comment. Just chill, man.

So I’ve given you a few questions to ask yourself to assist you with picking your battles in love. However, I want to stress that these questions are what I have found to work for my relationship. If I’m about to take my boyfriend to Chinatown, I ask myself these questions and then decide whether a fight is actually worth it or just something stupid that can be brushed off.

These questions may work for you and they may not. You need to find what works best for your relationship, and the only way to do that is to go with your gut. If your gut is telling you to say something, no matter how stupid, you should mention it to your partner. Communication is the key to making a relationship work. 🙂

So readers: how do you decide if a fight is worth it? Do you have questions you ask yourself to help defuse a potential fight?